Why Owning Your Own Choices is the Only Way to Change

By | Blog Original, Mindset

Can I be honest? One of my biggest pet peeves, as a parent and a person, is when people don’t own their own choices. And you know, it’s funny. I don’t remember my parents drilling that into me as a kid or anything. I don’t even remember it ever coming up. I do remember, like most of us, making mistakes and blaming other people. I remember, one time in particular, my step-brother and I were playing baseball in the street…

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Choosing the Best Website for your Coaching Practice

By | Blog Original, Career & Professional, Technology for Coaches

Coaching plays an important role in our society. It allows people to get help who otherwise might continue to struggle. Coaches support people through transitions that once were life altering, allowing them to get back to the “business of living” faster than ever before. And in the 21st century we are being bombarded with new tools and resources to “make [our] lives easier.” But what if they aren’t making our lives easier? What if all this technology is only complicating…

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Why does it have to be a long road?

By | Blog Original, Mindset

Have you heard the saying “It’s a long road but…?” It seems to come in and out of popularity and is usually used when talking about changing behaviors or making some other impactful change in life. I hear that a lot when talking about changing habits. Quitting smoking, starting a new behavior…anything like that. So, as I heard someone say this recently I began thinking back. Wondering how many times I have heard this saying before, allowing myself to believe…

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The Most Important Question in Parenting

By | Blog Original, Stories & Metaphors

As a parent we are faced with a number of challenges. We have to learn to balance our lives, manage our household, and raise and train our children to be outstanding members of the society they are going to live in. We raise them to be good, to work hard and to treat others well. We expect them to make themselves proud, and hopefully us in the process. All the while we are navigating waters we have never been on….

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You can’t make ‘em change

By | Blog Original, NLP Weekly Tip

It’s happened to all of us. We have someone in our lives and we want to help them change. Maybe they want to quit smoking, make more money or improve an important relationship in their life. Whatever it is, the story is the same. They tell us they want to change, they have tried to change, and they have never successfully changed. So, what is that about? Can you help them change, and more importantly, should you? One of the…

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The Next Step in Perceptual Positions

By | NLP Training, NLP Weekly Tip, Practice & Processes

Have you ever felt like, even though you understand and have practiced perceptual positions, sometimes they don’t make change by themselves?  Like sometimes you need something else, another bucket than the three standard positions? Perceptual positions are a core distinction in NLP, one that is used in multiple processes and techniques. Our perceptual positions guide our experiences. It is through this key distinction that we form memories, experiences and reactions. But what if our perceptual positions aren’t clear? What if…

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Anchoring for Results

By | Blog Original, NLP Training, Practice & Processes

Anchoring in NLP is a core technique. As the basis of so many larger processes, getting very skilled at anchoring is work that will be so very worth it. You can use anchoring to maintain a state, to elicit a resourceful state, to eliminate unwanted reactions, and as a part of so many other processes. It really is a core technique, without which, I’m not sure you can effectively practice NLP. As NLP practitioners, whether certified or not, our goal…

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How do you create your feelings?

By | Blog Original, Mindset, Practice & Processes, Stories & Metaphors

Have you ever gone to traditional therapy? I’m talking about a therapist that is trained in traditional behavior change, without and current or new modalities to pull from. When I was 15 I went through a rather difficult phase in life. Well, I should be more clear. My 15 was particularly difficult for my parents. I was having a blast!  🙂 Anyway, I was really testing my limits, hanging out with friends, and starting to get into trouble. I was…

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Why Self Improvement Books Don’t Work

By | Blog Original, Mindset, Stories & Metaphors

Self-improvement is a lofty goal that many of us are reaching for. We want to get past our challenges, bring out our strengths, and become the best and happiest version of ourselves possible. For many of us the journey is amazing. It’s illuminating, instructive, and successful. We are able to overcome and persevere, with more joy and ease than we originally thought possible. For others it becomes almost an obsession, never reaching that level of happiness so many strive for….

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10 Tips For Building a Strong Client Base For Your NLP Coaching Practice

By | Blog Original, Career & Professional, NLP Weekly Tip, Practice & Processes, Wealth & Abundance

A coaching relationship involves two people. The coach and the client. Last week we talked about what kind of coach you want to be, what you want to specialize in, and how to share what you do with the world. (If you want to read more about that, check out Finding Your Clients)  Now I’d like to talk about the other person in an NLP coaching practice (or any kind of coaching practice) …the client. Your client is the most…

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Finding Your Clients

By | Blog Original, Career & Professional, NLP Training, NLP Weekly Tip, Practice & Processes, Relationships, Stories & Metaphors, Wealth & Abundance

For many of us, finding clients is the only thing standing between us and success. You may feel your training is solid, your skills are dialed in, and you have accumulated some fantastic successes. Given that, your practice should be full and keeping you busy, right? Wrong. If only practice building were that easy. Regardless of your experience, you still need to market yourself in order to keep a full practice. And for many coaches, marketing is a difficult thing….

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Working with Other People’s Meta-Programs

By | Blog Original, Career & Professional, NLP Training, NLP Weekly Tip, Relationships, Stories & Metaphors

I’m very fortunate.  Business has been busy and growing. While, like anyone, there are bumps in the road, things are all in all going well. In fact, I’ve just added new members to my team. One of them is my daughter!  It’s really cool when you get to work with someone you already know and respect!  I consider myself to be exceptionally lucky in that respect. We are very much alike in some core areas, like work ethic, honesty, and…

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Chunk It Down…A Personal Journey Back to Strength

By | Applying NLP Now, Blog Original, Health & Wellness

Are you familiar with 30 day challenges? These days you can find them in almost any industry or focus that you can imagine. And if it’s not a 30 day challenge it’s a 90 day, or 6 month, or 12 month challenge. All you have to do is a quick search online for 30 day challenge and you’ll come up with more results than you can possible explore. Links, images, articles…they are everywhere. (Over 30 million results as of today!)…

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SNKRSWM

By | Applying NLP Now, Blog Original, Mindset, Practice & Processes, Stories & Metaphors

The other day I was driving down the highway with my daughter and we passed a nice car with personalized plates. I don’t know what it is about personalized plates, but I always love to guess what they say. Some of the license plates are really creative! As we were coming up on this car I could tell it was a personalized plate (all of ours are a combination of letters and numbers and this was all letters) Once we…

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NLP why we do what we do

Why I don’t care about the why

By | Blog Original, Mindset, Stories & Metaphors

How many times have you wondered why you felt a certain way, why you reacted to something a certain way, or why you weren’t able to do what you thought you wanted to do? How much time have you spent searching for the answer to why? If you are like most of us, you have spent more time than you would like trying to understand why you do something or feel something or think something. It’s a common question, and…

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Submodalities in communication

How your preferred submodality impacts communication

By | Applying NLP Now, NLP Weekly Tip, Relationships, Stories & Metaphors

One of the most valuable lessons I learned from my mom and step-dad – everyone processes at different speeds. You see, my mom was a very quick thinker with a wicked sense of humor. My step-dad, brilliant in his own right, was a much slower thinking, processing everything before responding. Unfortunately for my mother, that often meant going days without getting an answer or input on something. My mom, as a quick thinker, was also not always long on patience!…

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