The Unconscious Competence Calendar – Sample Pages

by Jan Hambrick

The Unconscious Competence Calendar is a 12-week perpetual calendar created to help you master your NLP skills. Designed with ease in mind, it offers a specific daily NLP learning tip.

Now you can practice NLP in a directed way, gradually increasing your proficiency until you attain the level of competence you most desire.

A week at a time you’ll focus on a different NLP model, including Sensory
Acuity, Rapport, Perceptual Positions, State Elicitation, Anchoring, Language Patterns, Congruence/Incongruence, Cues, Strategies, and Metaphor.

Here are a few sample tips you can practice easily as you go through your day.  Enjoy! – and if you’d like, here’s more.

Anchoring

Tuesday

Access a state of excellence in yourself. This state could be peacefulness, energy, confidence, or any positive state that you know you can use throughout your day. As you experience this state fully, physically anchor this state on your left wrist. At least three times during the day – perhaps when you need a lift – squeeze your left wrist and notice what happens to your state.

State Elicitation

Tuesday

Today identify someone at home or at work who is feeling sad or down. Using the principles of pacing and leading, establish rapport with this person and lead them to a state of peacefulness. What specific steps did you take in eliciting peacefulness in this person? What state(s) did you have to access in yourself in order to get them there?

The Meta-Model Practice Section

Monday
As you participate in conversations today, notice deletions in your language and the language of others. For example, “I’m angry.” Response might be, “About what specifically?” Write down the deletions in your expressions as well as those communicated by others. If you did not respond to these deletions, how could you have responded to facilitate clearer communications?

Tuesday
Today notice distortions in your language and the language of others. For example, “When you talk about me to our manager, I feel violated.” Response might be, “How does my talking to the manager make you feel violated?” Write down the distortions in your expressions as well as those communicated by others. If you did not respond to these distortions, how could you have responded to facilitate clearer communications?

Wednesday
As you participate in conversations today, notice generalizations in your language and the language of others. For example, “Nobody cares about me.” Response might be, “Can you think of any person who cares about you?” Write down the generalizations in your expressions as well as those communicated by others. If you did not respond to these generalizations, how could you have responded to facilitate clearer communications?

Thursday
Today notice nominalizations in your language and the language of others. For example, “I have a tremendous amount of productivity in my department.” Response might be, “What specifically are you producing?” Write down the nominalizations in your expressions as well as those communicated by others. If you did not respond to these nominalizations, how could you have responded to facilitate clearer communications?

Friday
Friday Night Stretch – Sit in a public place where you can hear other people interacting (the grocery or video store is a good spot). Listen to their conversations and pick out as many deletions, distortions, generalizations and nominalizations as you can. What effect do these meta-model violations have on the conversation? If you were participating in these inter-actions, how could you respond that would bring the other person to an awareness of their language?

Saturday
Self tasking – How can you challenge yourself today to grow in the area of meta-model?

Sunday

Day of integration – Today keep in mind the NLP pre-supposition, Anything can be accomplished when we break the task down into small enough chunks. How can the meta-model be one tool that can assist you in chunking down?

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