Why Owning Your Own Choices is the Only Way to Change

By | Blog Original, Mindset

Can I be honest? One of my biggest pet peeves, as a parent and a person, is when people don’t own their own choices. And you know, it’s funny. I don’t remember my parents drilling that into me as a kid or anything. I don’t even remember it ever coming up. I do remember, like most of us, making mistakes and blaming other people. I remember, one time in particular, my step-brother and I were playing baseball in the street…

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Why does it have to be a long road?

By | Blog Original, Mindset

Have you heard the saying “It’s a long road but…?” It seems to come in and out of popularity and is usually used when talking about changing behaviors or making some other impactful change in life. I hear that a lot when talking about changing habits. Quitting smoking, starting a new behavior…anything like that. So, as I heard someone say this recently I began thinking back. Wondering how many times I have heard this saying before, allowing myself to believe…

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How do you create your feelings?

By | Blog Original, Mindset, Practice & Processes, Stories & Metaphors

Have you ever gone to traditional therapy? I’m talking about a therapist that is trained in traditional behavior change, without and current or new modalities to pull from. When I was 15 I went through a rather difficult phase in life. Well, I should be more clear. My 15 was particularly difficult for my parents. I was having a blast!  🙂 Anyway, I was really testing my limits, hanging out with friends, and starting to get into trouble. I was…

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Why Self Improvement Books Don’t Work

By | Blog Original, Mindset, Stories & Metaphors

Self-improvement is a lofty goal that many of us are reaching for. We want to get past our challenges, bring out our strengths, and become the best and happiest version of ourselves possible. For many of us the journey is amazing. It’s illuminating, instructive, and successful. We are able to overcome and persevere, with more joy and ease than we originally thought possible. For others it becomes almost an obsession, never reaching that level of happiness so many strive for….

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SNKRSWM

By | Applying NLP Now, Blog Original, Mindset, Practice & Processes, Stories & Metaphors

The other day I was driving down the highway with my daughter and we passed a nice car with personalized plates. I don’t know what it is about personalized plates, but I always love to guess what they say. Some of the license plates are really creative! As we were coming up on this car I could tell it was a personalized plate (all of ours are a combination of letters and numbers and this was all letters) Once we…

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NLP why we do what we do

Why I don’t care about the why

By | Blog Original, Mindset, Stories & Metaphors

How many times have you wondered why you felt a certain way, why you reacted to something a certain way, or why you weren’t able to do what you thought you wanted to do? How much time have you spent searching for the answer to why? If you are like most of us, you have spent more time than you would like trying to understand why you do something or feel something or think something. It’s a common question, and…

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Beliefs and Identity - Inseparable partners

Beliefs & Identity are forever intertwined

By | Applying NLP Now, Blog Original, Mindset

A couple of weeks ago I shared my journey with yoga with you.  How my identity kept me from trying it, and my new committment to doing yoga every day. First, an update. I am not only still doing yoga…I notice the daily practice, combined with broken belief patterns and shift in identity, are leading to a more disciplined approach to my day and my health. Fascinating! Beliefs I didn’t even know I had I promised to share with you…

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How do metaphors show up for you?

By | Applying NLP Now, Mindset, NLP Weekly Tip

Metaphors are a valuable tool that can help us uncover blocks we didn’t know existed. Read below as Steve Andreas shares an experience where metaphors were particularly useful. (Originally published on www.realpeoplepress.com/blog) What do You Experience When Someone Breaks an Agreement? by Steve Andreas Recently I was exasperated by someone who didn’t keep what I thought was an agreement between us. But “Exasperation” doesn’t fully express the intensity of the confusion and disorientation I felt when that happened, so I…

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What my identity kept me from doing

By | Applying NLP Now, Blog Original, Health & Wellness, Mindset, Stories & Metaphors

About 10 years ago my then 9 year old daughter started a yoga business.  She wanted to help kids learn yoga as a tool for dealing with their emotions and struggles in a healthy way. She also felt she could help kids learn a healthy habit without telling them that it would be healthy. A few years later she wrote a book that hit the bestseller lists on Amazon within 48 hours. It was exciting and, frankly, unexpected! I was…

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choose your theme

What is your theme this year?

By | Blog Original, Career & Professional, Mindset, NLP Weekly Tip

We’ve all heard about it.  We may have even been asked.   “What is your theme for 2017?” Now, maybe someone calls it “your word” or some other phrase, but the idea is the same.  A word or phrase that sums up what you would like your intention to be for the upcoming year. It’s sort of like making resolutions, but on a broader scale.  Rather than listing out goals or resolutions for the year, choosing a theme or word…

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