Have a better love life, build better friendships, build stronger connections with co-workers.


Communication is the basis of all relationships.  In order to improve any relationship, romantic, professional or otherwise, you must first improve your communication.  There are many layers to our communication, things that often get missed, assumptions that get made, and feelings that get hurt.

As you learn and improve your communication skills through NLP you will notice your relationships shift. You will notice friendships are a bit deeper, colleagues respect you more, and your intimate partner feels a bit more intimate.


This is an important journey, and the tools and techniques you will learn here will guide you to the strongest, most genuine relationships you can imagine.  You’ll discover ways to strengthen your relationships with your family, grow closer with your friends, command attention and respect in the workplace, and enjoy your romantic relationships more than ever before.

Here’s an example of what you will learn in this area from our book “NLP: The Essential Guide”

The relationships that you have, the way you feel about the people around you, and the way you feel about yourself are all filters, and almost all of these filters were created unintentionally.

In the first section of this book, you discovered a lot about how your brain works, and how you can make changes so you function even more effectively. Everything you learned that goes on inside you also goes on inside other people. We all have the same structure of experience. We receive some kind of stimuli, either a memory or something coming in from outside; then the brain assigns a meaning to it . . . that triggers emotions . . . and those emotions trigger a behavior:

Simply put, this “process” is how we create our inner worlds, our personal “Maps.” Now we’re moving into dealing with someone else, too— someone who has their own unique map! We’re all processing, all the time, right? But here’s the thing. When we see other people, all this goes on so fast that we just make assumptions about who they are.

We stereotype: the person says this or does that, therefore they’re a certain kind of person. Frequently, our judgments about another person, which are really more like first impressions, are really nothing more than a reflection of our own internal filters. That’s often where the problem starts. What do we have to do inside ourselves before we can cleanly and effectively deal with this other person?

If you really want to “get” another person, it helps to drop your filters and find a way to be aware of what you’re thinking. In fact, people who are really wonderful with others make it a point to consciously check their own thinking. This helps them set aside their personal filters or mental prejudices so they can get the real information as it comes in; they get what’s actually happening past their personal filters.

People who do this effectively are truly able to focus on the other person. Because of this, they are considered “good company” and other folks enjoy being with them.

Learn more here: Excerpted from “NLP: The Essential Guide” (p. 161). HarperCollins. Dotz, Sanders, Hoobyar. Used with permission.