How To Do NLP On Yourself

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Greetings!

There is a dirty little secret in the NLP world. And it's
this:

No matter how much you know, it's VERY difficult to do real
work on yourself. We all know this. There's even a saying
about it:

"Doing NLP on yourself is like playing tennis alone. You can
do it, but it's very slow."

The Problem Is That You Can't Be In Two Places At Once.

You can't be in your head, having the feelings that create
the state you want to work with, and at the same time be
outside of yourself, analyzing what might be going on.

So you have to jump back and forth – and frequently the
person who tries this ends up either getting exhausted or
losing focus.

In either case you get a second-rate job.

And yet, sometimes you just CAN'T find anyone who knows
enough NLP to work with you. So you must manage your own
personal evolution.

In this way, self-management is just like the rest of life.

Life Is Like A Solo Flight Lesson.

First there's the ground school where you learn the theory
and regulations that govern flight. Then there are the
student pilot days where the instructor has hands on the
controls to keep you from getting into serious trouble.

Finally you have to solo.

Usually getting off the ground is the easy part.

At some point you have to land the plane by yourself. No one
can do it for you. You are alone. You bring yourself to a
safe landing it or you become a flaming pile of rubble on
the ground.

You can radio for advice and guidance — just like life.

You Have To Do All The Really Important Stuff Yourself.

In life if you want to change direction or altitude you have
to do it yourself. You can get all the advice available but
you are at the controls.

Suppose the controls don't work as well as you want them to?

What if you want to change your way of operating?

I'll tell you how I do it — courtesy of several NLP
pioneers who gave us some tools that can work wonderfully
with others. But the most important thing about these tools
is that they can work just as well when we use them on
ourselves.

Let's Take An Example.

Say you have a fear of dogs (or headwaiters or tomatoes -
doesn't matter).

Let's take the dog example. You get nervous even thinking
about going to a friend's home where there might be dogs.

You don't want to be a bother, but you really can't get
comfortable thinking about trying to be polite in someone's
home when their dog is sniffing or nosing around you. Other
people think you're being foolish and that just makes it
worse for you.

You don't know where this fear came from, but it seems to
get worse with the passage of time. You don't live near a
bunch of NLP people who can work with you. What do you do?

Here's a process that I adapted from the Living
Encyclopedia. It is a great resource for someone who
really wants to get NLP skills deeply ingrained into their
thought and behavior. This came from Anchoring, Section I.

Click below for information, and to learn your options

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Why You Need Resources To Support Your Learning.

Let me take a little side trip for a moment.

Remember your NLP training? It was a whirlwind, wasn't it?
One amazing principle after another. Genius trainers that
seemed to do magic when they demonstrated some technique
from the front of the room.

Hundreds of little things to keep in mind. Let's see, how
were they breathing? Did their color change? Were they even
breathing? What do I do next???

Don't worry – you're not alone. I've worked with thousands
of NLP graduates in various NLP Cafe study groups as well as
trainings, and most people had the same experience.

They were shown so much material in such a short period of
time that they weren't able to keep track of all the
details.

And like many other skillsets, it's the details that make
the difference between drudgery and mastery.

So I participated in the creation of the Living Encyclopedia.
And I have my own copy of this incredible rich resource.

So even though it's been years since I've been in a
training, I can run some DVD's — slow motion and repeat
over and over if I want — until I thoroughly understand
what was going on.

Even though I have an NLP library of over 140 books, these
DVD's show me the actual process that trainers and students
go through as they do NLP.

Now I'll Show You How I Do NLP On Myself.

First, just as if you were working with someone else's
problem, you need to do some investigation of the "problem
state".

If you were working with someone else you could just ask
them questions about their internal experience, and make
notes.

When it's YOU who is both client and practitioner the
process is a little different.

First, Sort And Separate Your States Of Mind.

First, be the client. Get a piece of paper and write "dog
fear" on it and put it on the floor. Then stand on it,
imagine you were in a room full of dogs, and get the full
yucky feeling. Then step back and brush that yucky feeling
off onto the paper. Step away from the feeling and take a
deep breath.

Whew! What a relief to leave that feeling over there!

Now you can consider it from a little distance. What was
that person standing on the paper actually experiencing?
What were they seeing in their mind's eye? What did that
other "you" hear inside his or her head? Where in your
earlier life does this seem to come from?

Now you have a lot of information, uncontaminated by trying
to get it clear while you were in the middle of a panic
attack.

With Floor Anchors You Can Do Lots Of NLP Techniques.

What I may do then is to lay out an imaginary timeline of my
life, stretching from the present back to my infancy. I may
slowly walk back into my past, looking for the first time
this weird anti-dog feeling came up.

I might then pick up that younger me who was frightened by a
dog, and bring him with me back through time up to the
present, allowing that younger Tom to learn how much I'd
grown and changed through the years, so he could see that he
(and I) were now big and strong and safe from the occasional
friend's yapper.

Or I might just leave that "dog fear" floor anchor in place,
and put another one down a few feet away called "comfort
around dogs". Then I could move back and forth, noticing the
difference and working with whatever came up.

The key to this is to stay immersed in the NLP mindset, past
the training. By continually reading, watching the Living
Encyclopedia, and practicing you can develop skills that
seem like magic.
A Person Who Has Been Through An NLP Training Begins To
Lose Skills Immediately.

You may have been shown hundreds of principles and
techniques, but you probably only saw one trainer
demonstration and then you tried it yourself, and then the
course had to move on to the next subject.

No wonder so many NLP graduates don't do NLP, or lack the
confidence to do really good work and make money at it. Or
even be able to help themselves and their friends and
family.

I haven't been in a training room in years, but because of
my frequent revisiting my NLP library and most importantly

Because of My NLP DVD's, I Am More Skillful Than Ever.

Consider protecting your investment in NLP training. You
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I wonder what you might learn and develop if you let your
brain roam through these 20 days, observing and letting this
amazing information soak into your consciousness.

In any event, enjoy your new approach to self-work. Let me
know how you're doing.

Seeya,

Tom Hoobyar